I perform stand-up comedy and I officiate weddings. I have blended both, written a contemporary-language, dynamic wedding script to lighten the tone of an otherwise rigid ceremony. Reverence need not be dull. Humor will allow the couple to relax, and it will provide some surprise and entertainment to your guests.
Comedians and officiants stand before guests whom not only have put forth the effort to attend, but also want to enjoy what awaits them. We want every seat occupied and undivided attention towards center stage. Our goal is to illicit an audience response generated by shared experiences. We hope everyone leaves feeling better than when they arrived.
I have learned officiating wedding ceremonies is not about being ecclesiastical; rather, it involves creative writing, leadership, and public speaking.
Creative writing allows me to compose a script both contemporary and representative of the couple. Plenty of tedious, mundane marriage vows, with beastly grammar, exist online. However, the thought of a “show up & throw up” monologue makes me cringe.
Leadership is important because it encourages me to be organized and manage the client-vendor relationship. Couples may not know what ceremony elements are available to them; suggesting options empowers them to broaden their scope. Leadership also includes standing with the couple and their attendants, prompting them to speak and participate during the ceremony.
Speaking of speaking, doing so publicly tolerates zero timidity. The newlyweds-to-be may be the stars of the show, but I will own the stage; my task is to lead them through their ceremony and make them look and sound their best. The opening and greeting must flow freely, unhindered by hesitation, and engaging. The Charge of the Couple may involve the verbal acrobatics of storytelling. Reciting the ring exchange requires cadence. The presentation must be assertive, audible, and comprehensible; no one wants to endure passive, incoherent mumbling.